Deve, after all that's been said, I think you know a good brand of oil and filter, and to change it regularly, and I think you can make a good decision on what will work for you.
All this yeng and yang about "I'd use this oil, this brand, the cost of it, or this weight or viscosity" it all boils down to doing what you know to suit YOUR needs.
I don't recall every seeing a filter that doesn't claim to meet OEM standards.... but I'm sure pfarber will know of one

The climate in which you live, how often you change your oil, and your driving habits, will have more effect on how well the filter and oil does it's job as much as anything else!
Since the early 80's I've never put less than 185K on a vehicle before giving it away to a family member. Currently my daily driver has 262K on it and still runs great. They all got a filter and oil change every 5000 miles... but I know there are some here that would think that is a crime! Do what you think is right and I believe you will not be wrong.
Oh, and pfarber, your not the only that knows about engine supplements so let that can of worms stay closed for now and not dilute Deve's very first post.