Achipmunk, I'd like to suggest that you let someone demonstrate the technique. Then you'll know what the basics are. In drill grinding, the basics are really basic: correct chisel point angle, correct flute angle and clearance and equal flute length. There is a simple drill gauge that is used to check these things. Your eye is incredibly accurate and with a little practice the gauge just confirms what your eye already knows.
I can understand the difficulty you are having if you're trying to teach yourself. I tried to teach myself gas and tig welding and that was a lost cause. Then I had the correct technique demonstrated and after that practicing (a lot of practicing in the case of tig) brought steady improvement. That may not be a good example because welding is much more complicated than drill point grinding.
We are a gadget society and so many of those gadgets are completely unnecessary. The best example I can think of is a talking TV screen in a car dashboard instead of a good old map.
