Ok, after everything was said and done this is what I did. The Auto Shut Down Relay was working but it wasn't getting the main 12v on the big red wire (I still don't know why) but I clamped 12v right off the battery onto the big red wire, left the Auto Shut Down Relay in and everything is working charging, coil, fuel pump, no stalling and no backfire. I'll check the big red wire later but if everything does ok maybe not. Thanks Curly!
Adios, Kip