In2Deep -- Congrats! Can't add much to the marriage sentiments except to echo what's already been said. A good marriage is like a good team of horses -- they pull evenly and together, always keeping the double tree perpendicular to the tongue. When one goes, they both go. When one spooks, the other calms. What one is thinking, the other is, too.
Now, about kids -- you are right to think long and hard there. You only have kids because deep deep down, you really want to take on the life-long task of rearing and developing another human being.
They are cute and cuddly for the first couple of years, then they become a long term investment -- you invest a lot of time and effort with very little return. Finally, when they get to be 24 or so, you start seeing a little return on that investment of effort. Then, if/when they become fully independant and contributing members of society, the investment pays off.
Take a good, long look in the mirror and ask yourself if you have the moxie for that. And also consider this -- if you find out the hard way that you don't, how will you like asking your parents to finish what you can't complete (because of divorce, job, etc)? Will that be fair to them?
Having children is a huge task and undertaking. You don't do it just because you like kids. It's sort of like buying a puppy because you think puppies are cute.
Something to think about.
John
