Mike - A little web surfing located this
Front Clip Bolt Kit that should give you the vast majority of what you are needing. As far as question 2 goes, I don't know that I would use anything since any lubricant you use will have to be cleaned/removed from your parts come painting time.
As for question 3, put an ad up in
Truck Parts Wanted if you are looking at locating a salvage cab.
