You've been very up front and sincere with your questions, and most of us have tried to respond accordingly. You'll find the vast majority of stovebolters to be that way. There's just a few folks who want to stroke their own ego by talking down to a newbie, so ignore that group and hang in there with the rest of us!
Jerry

"It is better to be silent and be thought a fool than to speak and eliminate all doubt!" - Abraham Lincoln
Cringe and wail in fear, Eloi- - - - -we Morlocks are on the hunt!
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. - Ernest Hemingway
Love your enemies and drive 'em nuts!